We’ve all experienced it at some point in our lives where we question whether we are doing well enough or are capable of facing all the uncertainties that might come up as we grow older. We experience feelings of self-doubt around decisions and choices we made or simply feel that we’re not good enough.
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Self-doubt occurs when we lack confidence or feel incapable of doing things we need to do. People who doubt themselves experience uncertainty around things they can’t control or worry about things not going according to plan.
A certain level of self-doubt is good because it indicates that you understand what you need to improve in order to do a better job. However, persistent fear and self-doubt can hugely affect your life in a bad way.
Motivate yourself, by telling yourself, that you are in a growing environment, where you don’t have all the answers. And this is the best opportunity to learn and grow and prove to yourself that you are capable.
Our reality is what stories we tell ourselves!
People who believe that their lives are meaningful tend to tell their stories with a growth and hope perspective. But people who are not able to move on from their experiences they faced in their life become entangled with their negative life events. They tend to tell contaminated stories by telling how difficult and tragic their lives are.
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Our sense of self esteem or self worth is largely developed during our childhood period which again was largely dependent on the relationships with our parents and our family. The culture we followed, the environment we were in, the society we were exposed to has shaped who we are.
Self esteem is the basis for everything. And as adults, if we need to work on it then we need to acknowledge the past, and start taking control of our future by taking action and reminding ourselves that we can be empowered.
Find out YOUR- SELF by self evaluating to the below questions and dig deep to find your answers to see how it impacts your life:
- How do you see yourself when you get to your core of who you are?
- Do you view yourself in a positive way?
- Do you believe in yourself?
- Do you believe that you are valuable, respectable, likeable, lovable and worthy?
- Do you feel you can achieve all your goals?
- Are you in control of your life?
- Do you feel powerful?
- Do you believe that you are lucky?
- Are you influential?
- Do you doubt your abilities?
- Do you feel you are worthy?
- Do you love yourself?
- Do you feel underserved for your successes?
- Do you believe that you can learn new things?
- Do you believe that, “You have got what it takes”?
- Do you feel like a victim and the world is against you?
- Have you lost your passion or your drive?
- How do you interpret the world around you? How do you react to those interpretations?
- Ask yourself……..What am I focused on? How does it impact my success and my happiness?
- How comfortable are you with identifying what your feelings are in a given situation. Is it serving or hindering you?
The importance of high self esteem:
- More likely to take on more opportunities
- Respond positively during the time of failure or unexpected things come your way as you learn the most from your greatest failures.
- Bounce back attitude
Living a happy, successful life requires you to be in control with your thoughts, behaviour and action.
Let’s not forget to look at:
- How far you have come
- What you have achieved
- What value you bring
- Celebrate your uniqueness
- Redefine and rewrite your stories that you tell yourself and others, that impacts your quality of life and what your able to achieve
- Reflect back on your life experiences and focus on what you have learnt and how it made you stronger and overcame it
- Remind yourself of your strengths
- Makes space for higher purpose and nature
- Change your life by working on your inner self
As humans, we are social creatures, we have a desire to grow, progress and fit into the society we are in and be loved.